Sunday, 7 November 2010

Flat is my middle name

Have you ever fantasized chestnut have someone special, who will say "Good night, and wear the blanket" every night, and there is always a phone in the morning are always saying "Good morning dear, quick shower because I will soon arrive in your house"  or walking on Friday afternoon, because if you spend the day Saturday and Sunday, will be jammed. Or help each other tasks to each other, and support if I get bad grades, and well acquainted with my father and mother, also a sister. Or is that always come to every day, because you're sick in bed, and always bring your favorite food. Or are you ever fantasized chestnut collecting movie ticket alone, and give it as a gift 1 anniversary year you. Providing an umbrella when the rain comes, or even run away amid heavy rain. I really want that, very, very, former then I can not give it, although a good physique, but no physical meaning is everything.
Now, even those that always say "Good night" is always faithful twitter listening to me, anytime. And also that woke me up in the morning is my alarm clock. he was always faithful to give me a warning for waking up. Also there is "Patricia" who always lead me to the campus, protect me from the heat, the rain, my loyal friend. He always looks dirty because I'm very lazy to wash it, the cause is I do not have someone who is always waiting on me each time I return to college, or every Friday afternoon, god, when you send someone that I have dreamed it? I really trust you, every leaf fall because your will. then draw near him, which I do not know the person though. God I always waiting for an answer my prayers through people. Lord I believe you're listening to the focus.

Sunday, 17 October 2010

Last Vacation at the High School

This story about a human story of a group trip, where our story will become a memory later. Oh yes one more, now we are all no longer the status of high school kids, everyone already have its university status.
This holiday begins his plan Biggy who celebrated his birthday to the 17, and he will celebrate by inviting us to holiday at a beach, plan in class, sitting on the bench for 2 students, vote on a whiteboard, joke here and there , but ultimately there has been no final decision as well (custom high school kids, a lot of plans but little reality xp, so missed the high school kids anymore)
And finally, UN, U.S., Practice Exams, Graduation, Farewell, had we passed, holiday time !!!!!!loh? but we've rarely met, because schools already dismiss us, and there will be no re-registration, or buying a new notebook, or buy new uniforms, yes because we now have not become Sman 22 Bandung students anymore, it's sad, our present status what? hee
As a result what else if not facebook that unite us, which is also loved by everyone, comment, vote, we are doing with the same wall, and consequently the committee cape set time because not everyone deals with decision-hee (including me, sorry) hee, but because the class committee bluff a little bit grumpy when touched with the expense we were getting results we set the ladder 15 july 10 pm, and returned on 18 July at 12 noon on Carita beach, but the funny again revamped the committee plan to go July 16, at 4 Fajr hee.

But for me it's a great question, whether I should go with their decision, dated 16? telecoms announcement also, well I was panicking at that time. father also provide relief, if his son was accepted in the telecoms, I was allowed to join up with them. And Biggy even so, just like me he is not threatened, the 16 he unjani test, and he plans to go to Carita test after 4 pm. Time goes so impatient I see telkom website to know the results, and the tank after I wake up from sleep at 12 pm, about 5 minutes, I opened her website at phonecell, and arggghhhh page canot open, alas! I immediately opened the laptop and connecting cable internet connection (with haste haste), type the name of the website telecoms, and treeng Fajri AKBAR RD, PASS SELECTION D3 computerized accounting, my body limp arhggg that time, not this jur that I want, check the name of the register also teman2 . send a message to vivi, if results are bad. And the most exciting thing, call papah, "Hello, I get hero in his D3, not S1 MBTI", "Yasudah later re pikir2 papah, leaves at what time?" . Hahhhh? hahaha good signal appeared on the sidelines between the telephone. Biggy telephone and chat, and reminds her to not tell if I go to the beach following a carita.
Set6 o'clock in the afternoon I, Biggy, and teh'buggie (his brother Biggy) began a trip to Jakarta, speeding once, once in a while I looked at the clock, smoke, saw the streets, and closed his eyes, does not feel when I wake Biggy, got BSD City, home Biggy. huh? thought to have reached carita, Biggy and his brother down, and I waited in the car. 15menit then we continue the journey. Why travel to get there is extremely challenging, thanks a'andre, kaka girlfriend Biggy, replacing the position of the driver.
At 10 through 24 minutes, the car arrived at the condo Carita Biggy, very excited! out of the car, Biggy first came in, and I'm behind, rany and aji are surprised to see me, and consequently rany joy I came, haa (the child), following the excitement he vivi, me and Biggy directly to the 2nd floor, room vivi, rany , Veni. One room the five of us
The next day, a beautiful day for water play, and we drove to the beach, photos, and eat breakfast beforehand, time to play with beach hahahaha, originally stood on the beach, but finally we mutually ignorant splash splashing water into the body each other, eventually we all go down at the beach playing water, his asyiik that time, (except aji and rany, they are fun dating off the coast) the difference, just me, vivi, and Biggy (no nuy, ines, Astari, 3 friends us, remember the days when we all play water in Pangandaran, and again Astari not participate at that time: ()BANANA BOAT! yeahhh we all tried the game, and he called unparalleled hahaha, each one of us quit playing water on the beach, but I, Biggy, Acong, Veni, ASKA, UPI, tommy, Adila, ine, rama, and whether it was forgotten xp swim in the pool which was a condominium that provides a swimming pool! activities that are most I like, I forget what time it is time, but we finish our work, walked toward the condominium. Bath, busy here and there, the floor is wet, many sand ahhh I do not like things like this, out of the shower we were chatting with each other in the room (because it also gets very hot out) to watch, together with my snack, photos, dating, smoking , wah relaxed atmosphere of the time!
Time does not seem to walk, the evening came around, and ahh I do not like the time when the disease relapses, as a result I'm only sleeping room, when they BBQ's, and even build rany me to eat grilled fish, grilled prawns, grilled squid. After that, we went to the beach that is located at the far end, away from our condominium, to light a campfire, make a circle was we were there, and a fire lit, warm! (When else we all come together like this? My mind the question that arises, ahhhhhh hate these thoughts in mind if one appears) there is a little upset here, because rama (benjo) throw throw sand into the fire, oh long long time it could be extinguished, errrrrrrr benjo benjo!
The next day, time for us to go home, check aout 12 noon, we were all packing barang2 masing2, Hmmmmm lazy moment like this moment, 12 o'clock came around, we all were saying goodbye to the Biggy, because he does not come with us to go home by bus, but he picked up again (the basis of the great lord)!when he got on the bus, we take pictures first, our group photo in front of the bus, which will be a memorable one, because that's when all our pictures together. "Thanks Biggy" once we say it to him when we leave, travel for the sake of our journey through the bus, sleep, watch transformers, snacking, the nausea, we feel all. Rest a while at our resort (up to 3x transit may hahaha)
Bandung, a city so I love, yes we all arrived at the toll gate of stone fruit!Parents, all of which picked us up, waiting in jl.rajamantri, Ahhhh finally arrived bandung too:)
This is what I will not feel again in the future, there will be no friends who like you, not that I do not want to grow up or do not want to accept fate but I feel normal for things like this farewell then, no more stupid things that will we meet later, I was sure it was not just me who feels this way, there are still many people who hysterical if you have a farewell!Not the word the word "bye" that I want, we just split each for several years, and have to meet again later, not for good!Truly great friends are hard to find, Difficult to leave, and impossible to forget!good luck friends

How to scold Child Wise (Development Psychology)

As a peaceful smile, sometimes we have to scold the child. This does not mean we abandon gentleness, for scolding and gentle manner are not two contradictory things. The soft is the quality of attitude, as the nature of what we do. Meanwhile, angry rebuke-not-an act. People can be rude, even though he was making out with his wife.
The problem then, we are often unable to defuse emotions when faced with an annoying child's behavior. We admonish children not because they want to correct errors, but because they want to vent anger and annoyance. Was not easy, but we need to continuously learn to relieve emotions in the face of a child, especially when faced with their behavior that makes us want to scream and widened. If not, we will not be effective reprimand. In fact, it is not impossible they were even more shows the "naughty".
Once again, no matter how difficult and is still often fail, we need to try to calm the emotions in the face of a child before we confronted them, before we scold them.
Moreover, there are some records that we can consider:

1. They Consequences To Teach, Not Threat
Children learn from us. They like to threaten them because we are often faced with a threatening force. They saw that in a way threatening, what they want can be achieved. From us, they also learn to vent his anger to show "keakuannya".
I do not deny, many outside influences that could alter the child's behavior. Peers, especially those who are very familiar with the child, can affect children. He mimics his friend of how to talk, act, expressing anger, through the spoken words. Sometimes the child understands what is said, but sometimes kids do not know what he meant. He was just imitating what is heard.
Our conversation is not about impersonation this time. Let us therefore come back talking together how the threat to children, often do not produce good change. The threat is not much useful to stop the misbehavior of children, or behavior that makes us sewot. Conversely, the threat of it makes children rebel and resist learning.
For one thing, children feel their parents do not care when we shouted threats at their ears. In addition, we often forget to indicate what should be done when we are busy boy threw a threat.

2. So what we need to do?

First, we return to the principle qubhunal 'iqab when bayan. It is worse to torture without giving an explanation. Once upon a time we need to sit together in an intimate atmosphere with the children to talk about rules.
Second, we can make a joint commitment with the child to obey the rules. For example, ask the child to calm down when there are guests. If anything needs to be delivered, or the child wants something, it should convey to parents nicely and be patient until they've been able to fulfill it.
Along with this commitment we can discuss with children the consequences of what is acceptable when the child during a tantrum at home. Once again, the consequence is delivered with a familiar tone. Not a threat.
When children do the negative things that are very disturbing, parents can remind children to return to again and again-not by threatening tone. Herein lies the weight. We are often easy to lose control. We easily widened when angry, but remember to be consistent.
Astaghfirullahal 'adzim. "You Say It Over and over again."
Behavior that is irritating it more memorable, more lasting and tend to move us to act immediately. Conversely positive behaviors tend to be less able to push us to comment, except if the behavior is really very impressive. Consumers are disappointed in a product, will soon be grumbling here and there, even though it's actually not much disappointment. But consumers who are satisfied tend to be silent, unless it's pretty amazing satisfaction. Parents and children will too. Parents easily recall negative behavior of children, while children may not be able to forget the painful act of his parents.
One of the common habits that offend the child's parents so they can undermine his self-image is the phrase, "I've said many times, but you do not want to listen."
This expression is indeed effective to make children quiet down. But he fell silent because of his pride, not realizing the error. If this often happens, the child will have poor self-image. The next impact, self-concept and self-esteem (self esteem), children will be weak. Children learn to view themselves seen in a negative way, so forget the many virtues and advantages he has. Conversely parents also so, more often say such things to children, we will be more easy to react impulsively. We further believe in the notion itself that our children are stubborn, annoying and difficult advised.
Was not easy, but the habit scolded child with the phrase "Father told you many times" or the like, should we be aware of current abrasion. We need to strengthen the resolve to say a more positive, no matter how nearly every comment we are still poor.

3. Do Tasteful Self, Self-behaved Only

One time, about half past two in the morning I wake up a child from sleep. He then went and asked her brother who was a baby joke, but his brother had just fallen asleep. As his mother, I also had emotion. I almost can not control emotions, but I soon realized that by my child is a reflection of the affection of younger. Well, what happens if I criticize my child? Especially when I glared at him and loudly, in good faith that can turn into anger so that children would develop a hostility to his brother. He could learn to hate her sister.
What I tell you is just an example. Not infrequently the child's behavior showed "negative," but it does not mean that.
Once, returning from a play-group my child said, "Mr. insolent." After I asked that is, it turns out he did not understand the meaning of impudent. He said, "Brazen it ya fool around, hiding-hiding."
We are very easy to misunderstand the purpose of the child. We're easy to get stuck with what we see. Therefore we need to learn to be more restrained in assessing children. Do not let there kids have good intentions, but instead we reproach himself so precisely off-initiative positive initiative. Even supposing he did make a negative action, and he knew his actions is not good, that we need to do is show that he should act positively. We straighten behavior. Not criticizing him. Busy denouncing child makes us forget to ask, "Why did my son do that?" In addition, the self-reproach and not on action-can undermine self-image, self esteem and confidence of children. In turn, the child has a fragile motivation. Na'udzubillahi dzalik min.
Most of us feel not feel denounce child, but our speech advocates against child. For example, "You do not want to hear why you advice? Heh? You always just ngeyel."
In this speech, the focus of our anger is a child, as we show with your words. Not his actions are wrong.

4. Never Say "Never"

Probably no word is more frequently spoken by parents to children over the word "no". We use the word "no" when she saw the child do the less we like. We also use the word "no", even when we expect children to do the other.
In fact the word "no" does not make easy to understand what should be done. As a result, the child difficult to meet the expectations of parents, while parents can become irritated because they feel their advice was not heard of children. Parents felt their children rather ngeyel (head stone, Bugis people say).
Then, if we should not give a ban? I can not imagine how the destruction of a world without any restrictions whatsoever.
So did the family. But reflecting on the Prophet, do not say "no" when he was doing wrong. Show me what should be done. Or be patient until he has completed the point, as when a Bedouin in the time of the Prophet was caught urinating in the mosque. If we do not want kids play sand on the patio, say, "Son, play sand on the patio only, yes?" Short, solid, clear and positive. No, "Come on, do not play sand on the patio. I am you later."
The best time to submit a ban parents is when children are familiar with the parents. In a neutral atmosphere, a ban that we give our children would be more effective. Children more easily understand. They can accept it as a rule. Not take it as an attack on him.

This is an experiment of semi-skripsi that I made about "Child Development" in 1st semester majoring in psychology, hopefully It can be useful experiment

Second life

On Saturday morning, held at the ciburial, exactly my 2nd building campus Unisba, I along with 20 other friends to follow the field training unit of student activity that is unisba protocol unit. This training event lasted for 2 days, ie Saturday and Sunday.There was an accident that happened on my training was interrupted kegiataan, namely the week of Fajr, at 3 am we were awakened new member of our sleep, we entered into the hall, and our eyes on the ground covered by a scarf, I became the first participant had a turn for the interview. I led the way out the hall by the committee, in a state of eyes closed, I arrived at the post first. I sat down, and I was given a question related to why being incoming protocol unit. The first question is completed, the fire suddenly burst to the front of me, I did not realize what happened to me at that time because my eyes are still in a closed state. I rolled on the ground while rolling out for help, because I already feel my body on fire. Then the committee helps to put the fire out by any means. Berhasilah the fire was extinguished but I was already on fire, my pain, my shout. Then I was taken to Rs. Borromeo St., arrived at 4 am, I entered the emergency unit, not long after my family came. And on the day of week that I became inpatient hospital, to this day, 2 weeks ahead.

You know how it feels to get a second life? Grace to me, God gave me the opportunity to become a better human being again.